Feeling Good

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“Let’s eat Grandma!”

That’s a terrifying phrase to read. One that conjures up images of a family dinner turning into a horror film or something from the imagination of the brothers Grimm.

But, if you insert a single comma after the word eat, the entire meaning completely transforms: “Let’s eat, Grandma!”. Now, it’s just a nice, normal invitation to dig into lunch.

With that tiny shift in structure, we go from it reading like a criminal act to a family enjoying a Sunday roast together.

There’s an upcoming WordPress daily prompt this week that caught my eye: “What’s a common misconception people have about happiness?”. It got me thinking. It’s a little like my joke at the start; it depends how you interpret it.

For me, happiness isn’t a constant state of being, it’s found in fleeting moments. It’s just a brief, beautiful punctuation mark. It’s a comma or an exclamation mark that changes an otherwise unremarkable day.

I. The Corporate Subscription Model 🧘‍♀️📉

The modern wellness machine doesn’t want you interpreting happiness as a fleeting punctuation mark. There’s no money to be made in letting you be content with a normal, neutral baseline.

Instead, they’ve successfully re-interpreted our lives to turn emotional stability into a commercial subscription model. We’re surrounded by workplace wellness initiatives and self-help manuals.

The algorithmic feeds treat a standard human day (where you just sit on a bus, stare out a rainy window and merely exist) as an error.

They treat your mind like an outdated piece of software that requires constant updating. They convince younger generations that if they aren’t waking up every morning vibrating with pure, unadulterated euphoria, their system is glitching.

And conveniently, they have the exact premium upgrade you need to buy to fix it – whether it’s a mindfulness tracker, a subscription app, or a special pair of organic linen trousers.

By turning an occasional emotion into an ongoing chore, society has created an unbearable level of performance anxiety. Chasing a permanent high is quite literally fighting against human biology.

Science confirms that our brains process joy through temporary dopamine spikes designed by evolution to be short-lived. If you were happy 100% of the time, you’d be a clinical anomaly.

II. The Algorithmic Meltdown 📉📱

This structural expectation of forced optimism is actively destroying the mental health of an entire generation, setting them up for absolute failure.

Younger people are the very first guinea pigs raised entirely within a digital panopticon. They aren’t just comparing themselves to the cool kids at school anymore; they’re comparing their raw, unedited, behind-the-scenes reality to a global, 24/7 scrolling loop of hyper-curated, flawless success. They have been duped into believing that normal neutrality or quiet boredom equals failure.

The Reality Dossier: The Happiness Deficit
The comprehensive World Happiness Report revealed that life satisfaction among individuals under the age of 25 in Western and English-speaking nations has dropped dramatically over the past decade. Independent data published by the Oxford University Wellbeing Research Centre directly correlates heavy, passive social media consumption with this unprecedented drop in youth well-being. Furthermore, clinical research highlighted by prominent psychologists notes that replacing a play-based reality with a phone-based existence has structurally broken the youth’s ability to tolerate normal, neutral human emotion.

They’re profoundly unhappy because they’ve been taught that being anything less than ecstatic means they’re somehow defective. They haven’t been shown that life is mostly comprised of mundane, quiet spaces – and that there’s peace in that neutrality.

III. The Defiant Belly Laugh 🛡️🎭

For me, real joy can never be found in a corporate app or a curated life plan. It’s found in the simple, messy cracks in between the everyday grind.

It’s a catch-up with friends where you completely lose track of time. It’s watching wildlife in your garden until your forgotten coffee gets cold. It’s a proper, uncontrollable belly laugh that leaves your cheeks aching and your life a little brighter.

That’s exactly why I choose a genuine laugh over a fake smile. Why my gallows humour isn’t a sign of defeat; it’s the ultimate form of human defiance.

Making someone laugh doesn’t fix a systemic global crisis, but it inserts a temporary comma into the stress. It proves they haven’t managed to crush our human spirit entirely.

IV. The Citizen Jane Field Guide™️ (The Joy Subversion) 🧠✊

Stop trying to reach eternal enlightenment. It doesn’t exist. The lifestyle gurus are faking it and the subscription fees are ridiculous. Use this operational blueprint to reclaim your right to be a regular, beautifully flawed human.

System Disconnection Index
Autonomy Status
[░░░░░░░░░░░░░░░░░░░░] 0/4 Strongholds Reclaimed
⬜ Toxic Positivity | ☑ Radically Grounded

[ ] Drop the Happiness Obligation: Treat your low or neutral days as completely standard human settings. You do not need to “fix” a day just because it was quiet. Neutrality is the human baseline. ☕
[ ] Hunt the Micro-Moments: Reframe your daily metrics to celebrate the fleeting sparks – a brilliant cup of tea, a perfect song on the radio, or a shared moment with a mate. 🎯
[ ] Sabotage with Humour: When the world gets entirely grim, find a sharp, cynical joke to share. Laughing at a dark reality doesn’t mean you don’t care; it means you refuse to let the situation control your mind. 💀
[ ] Share the Trenches: Stop trying to present a perfect, “blessed” front to the people you love. Share the mess. A genuine, vulnerable laugh over a shared everyday disaster is worth more than a thousand curated photos. 🤝

Join the Rebellion: The Daily Prompt Mutiny ✊👇

Happiness isn’t a destination; it’s more like a series of fleeting day-trips. It’s why I write this blog. And it’s why I’ll always choose a good laugh over a manufactured lifestyle.

Your Mission: Let’s hijack the WP prompt algorithm ahead of time and bring it back to reality. I want to know two things in the comments below: What specific, fleeting micro-moments actually bring you real joy? And what is your absolute favourite, laugh-out-loud joke? Let’s ignore the wellness gurus and turn the comments section into a place of real human happiness. 👇

Citizen Jane x ✌️

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29 responses to “Feeling Good”

  1. Where have you been Jane? Hope everything is alright.

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    1. I’ve been hiding from the sun! I wrote a post yesterday about my summer Nemesis in the sky.
      Thanks for checking in though 😊 Appreciate it!

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  2. what does happiness mean to you in 2026, Citizen Jane? 😊.

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  3. It’s just good to spot simple things that made me smile genuinely. One of those things is having funny, always-hungry pets.🤭 I don’t care what’s my face look like when I talk to them.

    I am late, Jane 😁 your writing is spot on!

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  5. I’m so glad you wrote this. Everyone should read it. I stopped looking for happiness a long time ago. I opt for contentment. Here’s a thing that gives me joy and I do it every day. I feed the birds. They, the people who say they know what is right, say you shouldn’t. I do it anyway. Also, our neighbor has chickens. There is one hen I call Harriet who escapes their yard and comes to look for bugs in our yard. I’ll take her some sunflower seeds when I see her. When she sees me, she comes running up and clucks her delight. It always makes me smile. I find joy in the moment when our cat falls asleep in my lap and starts dreaming. I don’t have a favorite joke. I don’t find much to belly laugh at these days. But that’s okay. I don’t need that because I’ve found contentment.

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    1. I love that! Contentment is something that all of us can aim for!

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I’m grateful you stopped by.

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  6. Hope you are doing well Jane. I’ve been so busy with the puppies I thought I could have missed some posts by you but I haven’t…but anyway… hope you are doing good!

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    1. I’m great thanks, Max!

      I’ve just been too busy and far too hot to write recently!

      So, is that the pups gone now? Hopefully you’re all catching up on some sleep!

      Hope all good with you. Thoroughly enjoying your posts as always!

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      1. Thats right! You all are getting hit by a heat wave. Jane…I’ve seen videos of people from England coming over here for the World Cup….they talk about how they love the food and most of all air conditioning lol.
        No…we are down to 7…today we are giving one more away….and tomorrow we will be down to 3…after that on July 13 the new owners are back from vacation so that is when the last two goes…and Cosmo stays with us!
        Thank you!

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      2. Ooh, I imagine it’s tough saying goodbye to them after having them since they were born.
        How’s Martha coping with it all? It’s so lovely she’ll have Cosmo with her 🐶💖🐾

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      3. Yes it is…now we have 6…Martha’s alright…yes she has Cosmo alright. I actually saw this…him picking on another puppy and she grabbed him by the ear…and marched him away…funniest thing I’ve ever seen. He will have a rough life with her LOL.

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      4. Awwww she’s such a good mum, teaching him manners! I bet your house will feel quiet once the rest have gone to their new homes!

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  7. Sorry I’m late! Yea those puppies now are waking us up at 3 am sharp! lol…2 more weeks!

    Anyway…to the post…“Let’s eat Grandma!” grabbed my attention! You know…I don’t know what to think anymore. When I grew up most of the adults were not on medication for everything. So…is it because of the enviroment that has been made for us…or is it because this stuff has been shoved down our throats? Those wellness commercials… “could cause stroke, heart attack, death…or worse!” I would love to know what the hell worse is!

    Did people need more medicine growing up…or did they just adjust and get on with their lives without the side affects to everything that is pushed on us? Hope this wasn’t off subject…

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    1. Are you late or was I early lol 🙃
      Ahhh 3am wake up calls… that sounds fun! I imagine they must be getting quite big now!
      Haha yeah I thought that might be an attention-grabbing opener lol!
      But yeah I agree with what you’re saying and now I’m genuinely wondering what’s worse than death!?
      And here on my site, there’s no such thing as off subject lol! I just love chatting in the comments 😎

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      1. I’m known as Mr Off topic lol… but yea…I can’t decide if we as a society are putting ourselves in this situation as we slowly become hooked on every medicine out there. Something will have to give one day…but maybe that something will be worse than death lol.

        Yes they are getting big. The one we picked out…Cosmo is larger than his mom was at twice his age… I told Bailey and Jennifer…better pick them up because within a month or so you won’t be able to.

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      2. I think the thing I can’t wrap my head around the most is how quick we are to take medication that’s unproven.
        Like Ozempic for example. All these people using it to lose weight when it hasn’t been around long enough to see the long term effects.
        Or merrily injecting the same neurotoxin that causes botulism into our faces cos….wrinkles!
        Oh my he’s gonna be a big woofer then!

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      3. Jane…It’s because in this time/period everyone wants it NOW. No matter the ramifications. We have Amazon delivering items to us on the same day we order it. No patience at all…I remember sending off cereal box tops for something and waiting weeks. Would not happen now lol.

        I think he will be the largest we had…we did have one that weighed 175 lbs…as good as gold though.

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      4. Yeah that’s so true! Everything has to be immediate nowadays.
        Another thing I hate is how quick we are to throw things away. Years ago we used to repair things!

        Wow, that is big! It’s weird how big puppers are usually gentle giants and little dogs always have attitude lol!

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      5. Yea and you can only speed up things so much. They never had to learn patience.
        I agree with the repairing things. We went through 3 brand new blenders in about 5 or 6 years…they all broke…went to a yard sale and I saw a 1969 Oyster Commercial blender for 10 bucks…that was 15 years ago…it will blend iron lol.
        Oh yea…if a Saint Bernard would have a Chihuahua’s temper…we would all be in trouble.

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      6. Yeah got to love that “planned obsolescence. I just love buying expensive items knowing their manufacturer wants them to break in a few years (just after the warranty has run out usually!).

        Omg that would be TERRIFYING. Not a popular opinion but I like dogs to look like dogs… not snappy rats!

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      7. I’m done with it Jane… we went through 2 washers 2 dryers in like 8 years…these were NEW. So…this time we bought a used older washer and dryer with knobs (remember those new fangled things?) and not computer screens. They have been doing great!

        Yea…those dogs are not nice at all. No offense to anyone who loves them (bless you all) but I call them The Devil’s Spawn. I never met one that didn’t like to nip you…or kill you if it could.

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      8. I saw an ad the other day for a washing machine with AI!!! Wtf? How will that help? You still have to put in the detergent etc. As far as I know, it doesn’t load or unload the washing and hang it out! So what does it do?

        Eurgh I agree. When we had our German Shepherd she was forever being attacked by the little erm…. (try not to swear) “dogs”. She was always shocked but never reacted which was just as well. Just get a cat instead!

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      9. LOL…AI on a washing machine! Have a conversation with your washing machine while you are washing! Insane…I saw a trash can that was automatic…yes it’s lid will open automatically…Whew! That saves you the back breaking work of lifting a lid.

        I love dogs…but I don’t consider them one… I consider them an imp…whew I’m reaching back to high school to remember what an imp was.

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      10. Lol I know right?!?! It’s almost as if pedal bins aren’t a thing! I think I’d rather have a robot to do it all for me instead of AI advising me that I accidentally put a white sock in the coloured clothes wash 🤔🤖

        Yes they are imps hahaha!! Just pointless really. Have a real dog if you’re going to have one!

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  8. Oh my, laughing out loud, for this one. Thank you Jane. Let’s not eat grandma, we’re not cannibals, after all.

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    1. Haha glad I made you laugh! Even cannibals would have struggled with my grandma… she was a tough old bird!

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  9. There should be a love button to do this right. I. LOVE THIS. As usual , you hit the nail on the head. I’ve witnessed it with young family members. I’m with you.I love a belly laugh.I love sharing a belly laugh.I’m not ashamed to laugh and I can’t think of anyone I’d rather share that belly laugh with than you. You’re my up when things are down. You’re my treasure when I want to frown. You’re the joy in oh boy. I love you with all my heart.I pray that somebody pays attention to what you say. Cause honestly, there’s so much truth in this, put down the phone, talk to somebody real laugh, cry share the messy. Cuz that’s life. Love You and thank you

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    1. Tee hee…. we do make each other laugh constantly!

      Glad you enjoyed it ☺🙃

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